Confusing (Hapdate)

Busy bangat...pening kepala...confuse222.....tu sebab lama tak update.Lagi pun no mood to update blog. Sekarang tgh sibuk dgn 1 projek nanti akan di war-warkan.....
Lepas tu aku pi menggatal saje test market kat Jobstreet..macam dah boring jer kerja kat sini....setiap masa setiap saat buat kerja yg sama jer...tension222222.
Dalam seminggu nie...ada 2 interview yg aku dapat...both company....memang aku suka....1st interview aku tak pie pun..MALAS.
2nd interview esok (Friday)...rasanya akan aku pergi ...KOT....sebab benefitnya..tersangat lah bagus compare company aku sekarang nie.
3rd interview next month...with SPA. (nie memang ramai desak aku suruh pi sebabnya...GOV lah)
Sampai berdenyut2 kepala aku nie ha!!! fikir pasal interview...sebab dah lama tak pi..rasa seram sejuk pulak......
Apa pun Mr Hubby suruh pi jer...dapat tak dapat lain cerita..yg penting USAHA.
Aku nie bukan boleh fikir byk sgt...start lah kepala nie berdenyut2 tak ingat punya......macam nak hantuk ke dinding je.
Oklah...sekian laporan untuk hari nie...ngantuk..pening2222.

#### Patutnya aku ada interview hari nie...nampaknya tak pielah....macam mana aku nak pie? takder transport...laki aku pulak ada hal....busy jer manjang.Dahlah kat Subang Hi Tech nun...so MALAS.Nak naik taxi pun malas..boleh? Lagi pun aku keje hari nie malas nak ambik half day...so sebab MALAS menguasai diri...so tak pegi lah........
Kenapa lah penyakit MALAS menguasai diri aku sejak akhir2 nie..mungkinkah sudah bosan dgn kerja skg......bestnya kalo duk rumah .... ..main2 ngan Aina.....tapi duit masuk.......biler??????

How to raise an emotionally intelligent child

Reviewed by the BabyCenter Medical Advisory Board

Psychologist John Gottman says that when you help your child understand and handle overwhelming feelings such as anger, frustration, or confusion, you develop his emotional intelligence quotient, or emotional IQ.

And, says Gottman, a child with a high emotional IQ is better able to cope with his feelings, can bring himself down from emotional high-wire acts, understands and relates well with others, and can form strong friendships more easily than a child with a lower emotional IQ.

How can you help raise your child's emotional IQ? Gottman teaches a tactic he calls "emotion coaching," a series of steps you can use to teach your child to analyze feelings and handle conflict. Here's how it works:

Listen with empathy.

Pay close attention to your child when he says how he feels, then mirror what he's shared back to him. If you suspect that your child feels abandoned because you've been spending lots of time with the new baby, for example, ask him if that's what's going on. If he agrees, you can say, "You're right. Mommy's been really busy with the baby."

Then, use examples from your own life to show him you understand what he's said. Tell him about how you felt when your own sibling got to go to the amusement park with your father and you didn't, and how your own mom or dad made you feel better. This tells your child that everyone has these feelings, and that they will pass.

Help your child name his feelings.

With limited vocabulary and rudimentary understanding of cause and effect, toddlers often have trouble describing what they feel. You can encourage your child to build an emotional vocabulary by giving him labels for his feelings. If he's acting disappointed about not being able to go to the park, you might say, "You feel sad about that, don't you?"

You can also let him know that it's normal to have conflicting emotions about something — for instance, he may be both excited and scared during his first week at daycare.

If your child seems sad or upset for no immediate reason, try looking at the big picture and thinking about what might be troubling him. Have you moved recently? Did you and your spouse have an argument in his presence? If you're not sure what's going on, watch and listen to him while he plays. If he makes the Mommy doll shout a lot, you'll have a pretty good idea what's bothering him.

Validate your child's emotions.

Instead of saying, "There's no reason to get so upset" when your child gets mad and throws a tantrum because he's unable to put together a puzzle, acknowledge how natural his reaction is. Say, "It's really frustrating when you can't finish a puzzle, isn't it?" Telling him his reactions are inappropriate or excessive will make him feel as if he should muzzle them.

Turn tantrums into teaching tools.

If your child gets upset when he hears that he has an appointment with the dentist, help him feel in control by preparing for the visit. Talk with him about why he's afraid, what he can expect during the visit, and why he needs to go. Tell him about a time you had stage fright before a recital or were scared to start a new job and one of your friends made you feel better. Talking through emotions works the same way for children as it does for most adults.

Use conflicts to teach problem-solving.

When your toddler goes head-to-head with you or another child, make his limits clear, then guide him toward a solution. For example, you can say, "I know you're upset with your sister for knocking over your block tower, but you can't hit her. What else can you do if you get mad?"

Set an example by staying calm.

You'll also want to check how you react to your child's display of emotions. It's important not to be verbally harsh when you're angry. Try saying, "It upsets me when you do that," rather than "You make me crazy," so your child understands that the problem is his behavior, not him. Be careful to avoid excessive criticism, which tends to chip away at a child's self-confidence.

Fussy ke anak aku nie?

Nie lah antara benda2 yg direject oleh Aina...memang anti betul dia dgn benda2 nie semua ..... kalo paksa..akan meraung lah anak dara nie sekuat2 nya.

1) black socks: sengaja aku belikan...yerlah selama nie duk beli warna pink jer.. tu pun Mr Hubby yg suruh ambik colour nie....sekali bila pakaikan...terus tendang2 tak nak pakai...menangis tak ingat .."'nanak...nanak.."..bila pakaikan pink socks nak pulak..terus sengih...ishhhhh.

### dah pandai anak aku nak melawa yer.....pandai dah pilih colour(ayat sedap kan hati)

2) hair pin : dia nie kan kureng rambut....dari lahir sampai sekarang lebih kurang je pjg nya...so tak dapatlah nak ikat2 ala222 baby doll.Sekurang2 kalo ada hair pin boleh lah melawa sikit...aku letak...dia tarik..aku letak...dia tarik...at last mama dia geram..terus....cabut..malas nak layan...

### jimat and memudahkan kerja mama....just sikat sudah kan Aina

3) pulls up diaper: ingat kan kalo beli senang lah nak pakaikan dia diaper....kang dia suka lari2 bila time nak pakaikan diaper.Bila nak sarung jer..dia reject...terus melalak....terus lari masuk bilik...ambil diapers lama dia....nasib baik beli sikit jer dulu....nak try.Tp since aku try pull up diapers nie dia reject..skg senang pulak pakaikan diapers biasa tu terus baring baik punya...takut aku pakaikan pull ups tu kot.

### baguih jimat....pull ups nie kan mahal sikit...janji dia selesa..tak dipaksa2..kalo tak nak pakai

4) spendot: nie gara2 pull ups diapers..terus dia reject tak nak pakai spendot ...huhuhu...so kalo nak pakaikan skirt kena lah aku sorok kan spendot tu dalam skirt sarung sekali tak kasi dia nampak.

Yang tiada dalam gambar.
1) selimut: memang anti selimut minah nie, kalo dia terjaga ada selimut atas badan dia siaplah..

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Semalam aku MC....fever 39',running nose... cough....so....pi balik rumah lepas dapat MC.....n tidorzzzz..bangun..tidorzz..ingatkan..balik rumah tanpa mengambil Aina dari taska dapat tidur lena...tapi hampeh....tak lena juga...

So..hari nie kerja dengan keadaan yg masih tidak stabil...........tekak masih perit & gatal......flu masih menjadi2....fever..sudah baik sikit.

Open House (hapdate)

Dapur aku tak berasap hari nie..byk pula jemputan open house. So,breakfast hari ni just nyamah roti bakar jer..kasi perut longgar2 sikit. Jemputan pertama : Cheras , ke2: Taman Maluri, ke3:Jauh lah pulak ,Kajang.Tu pun ada satu lg kat Rawang ..tak pi kot..jauh bebenor.

**** Memang semput perut aku semalam.....dalam ting tong badan tak sihat nie...pi juga open house tu.Daripda nasi beriani, nasi impit kuah lodeh,satay,nasi tomato,laksa,mee rebus.....semua aku tibai. Tapi makan takder feel pun..sebab selsema n batuk nie. Sampai rumah terus down....langsung demam.HUHUHUH.........tak larat betul.

nie jer lah picture yang sempat aku snap. Masa nie kat Kajang....ambik kau siap pasang kanopi lagi.Nie rumah member Mr Hubby

My Best Friend

My buddy..tlog jgn jeles yer........aku bosan petang2 nie.So..layan..........

So..sweet!!!!

Jlo is beautiful..but that dress OMG!!look short.

Dinner # entry bergambar

Nie lah dinner aku semalam, we allz try to escape rice 4 dinner.

Aina and her cousin

Lately nie, depa nie memang close...beza umur just setahun jer.Aina lahir Dec 06 and Nabihah Nov 05. Sebelum nie..pantang jumpa berebut toys jer...tp skg masing2 dah boleh tolak ansur share toys.Picture nie di snap last weekend,my sis buat makan2 sikit.

Ngantuk !!!!

Ngantuknya!!! gara-gara Aina
Aku EL semalam, anak dara tu fever,coughing every half hour and letih melayan kerenah manja dia esp. time sakit. Pagi sempat bawa dia jumpa GP jer..Mr Hubby ambil half day..n aku EL.Ingat kan dapat Qada tidur malam sebelumnya....tp hampa .... Aina tak bagi chance langsung untuk mama dia tidur dgn aman....mula2 ok jer dia main depan TV tu...aku siap bentang toto...konon2 terlelap sekejap...bila dia perasan aku terlena..habis diciumnya nya muka aku 2..3 das ciuman.....
Dia susah bangat nak tidur..sebab tak selesa kot...batuk...kejap2 tertonggeng lah...meniarap lah...naik atas badan aku lah....macam2 gaya dia mencari keselesaan untuk tidur.
Malam tadi...i'm so heart to see her coughing.She can't sleep well last night..n of course aku pun tak dapat tidur dengan aman....
yg kelakarnya every time she wake up n coughing ..dia akan panjat n meniarap atas badan aku...lepas tu suruh peluk dia...ala..kesiannya. ...

Hari nie...bangun pagi dengan harapan...demam n batuk dia tak lah teruk sgt....demam dah ok sikit...cuma batuk jer....semangat jer bangun pagi...siap puji mama dia hari nie..."cantik aaaa" tu lah ayat bodek dia setiap kali kita org siap2 nak keluar....ayat bodek nak ikut.
Sempat call BS dia tadi....and she told that Aina..fine...so mama dia tak usah lah risau2

Ceritera Raya

cilok dari Friendster Huda...sorry erk(nie baru suku dari keseluruhan family yg semoat bergambar..ramai lagi sebenarnya)cuba cari kami bertiga

#Berangan jadi anak dara jap

dari kiri ( huda (cousin),jannah(cousin),aku,umie(adik bongsu aku))

I'm Back!!!! Huahahaha malazzzz tahap gaban nak keje......skg nie baru boleh update blog......dari pagi .. menimbun kojoooooo....
Lepas sessi merayap blog selesai yg mana majoroti nya semua cerita psal raya..mood raya tgh membuak2 kan......so..... turn aku pulak nak cerita sikit.

27 hb Sept
Aku balik ke Gemas,selepas subuh terus bertolak......aku n MrHubby..kalo nak berjalan jauh memang suka balik pagi2...nyaman dan aman sentosa jer.Jalan clear dalam 2 jam setengah dah sampai.Sampai jer .. macam biasa kalo kat rumah aku relax jer memanjang......smpi Mr Hubby kalo balik kampung aku tak tahu nak buat apa selain tidur.....mak aku kan rajin mengemas....

Duk lah bertapa kat rumah....tolongmasak..pasang langsir..Aina ligat jer ngan Tok Abah dia.....

Balik Segamat 30hb sehari sebelum raya, sempat lah pi jalan shopping last minute kat Segamat.....malam raya ronda kat Bandar Segamat tu ngan adik aku yg 2 kerat tu jer.....akak aku balik rumah pak mentua kat Besut..tak syok lah dia tak der.....


Boring meronda2 kita org melantak KFC pulak padahal.......masa berbuka dah melantak macam222.

Raya Pertama.
Macam biasa kalo aku turn aku, 1st raya mesti kat rumah atok aku kat Segamat...memang wajib...setakat nie tak pernah lagi kita org sambut 1st raya kat rumah mak aku kat Gemas....tapi tak lah happening macam kecik2 dulu..time tu memang seronok cousin semua ada..tp kali nie berapa kerat jerlah...tp tetap best.....sebab ada hidangan wajib atuk aku " babat(in malay perut lembut) masak kicap(mix tempe,soun,dll) babat tu bhasa jawa...sodappppp. Biasa lah pagi raya...ziarah saudara mara lah...smpi tak larat dibuatnya.

Raya ke2.
Beraya lagi ke rumah sanak saudara kat Segamat nie......penat dah letih tak terkata.Balik ke Gemas dah petang...smpi jer terus membuta sebab kepenatan.

Raya ke3
Balik Penang , macam biasa kitaorg bertolak selepas subuh......jalan jauh nie........sempat singgah Tesco Ipoh beli pampers Aina yg kehabisan stok.Smpi Penang dalam pukul 2 petang......mana taknya dok kat Tesco Ipoh tu jer dah dekat 1 jam lebih..beli sandle lah.....makan lah.....(huaaaaa jeans baru aku + 2 helai baju aku yg baru jer beli = tertinggal kat Segamat lahhhhhhhhhhhh...Mr Hubby oiiii......saper nak ganti nie?????

Raya ke4
Ibu mertua ku masakkan nasi beriani special untuk kita org...sedapppppp.Disebabkan terlalu byk makan ...terus badan terasa panas semacam jer......nie mesti terlebih rempah kari nie....
aina tok sah lah nak cerita.....pantang tgk tanah...laju jer.....
petang pi Pulau....ziarah member MIL yg kena strok...tak sempat nak merayap...sebab dah malam....esok nya pagi2 nak balik KL balik.

Raya ke5(semalam lah)
Balik KL!!!!!! selapas subuh jugaaaa......pukul 11 kitaorg dah smpi ..jalan clear..kalo tak smpi lagi awal...sebab berhenti kat R&R Tapah..pekena nasi lemak....yg ramainya umat manusia....
Nasib baik tak balik petang sebab....dgr cerita petang semalam PLUS dua2 hala jammed terukk....so Tuan Puan...Rancanglah perjalanan anda sebelum bertolak.


Habis Cerita Raya....